In this world, there are tons of things that we struggle to accept and those things in many ways can hold us back if we put them off for too long. Sure, it might be hard to grasp that we will all die someday but the truth behind it cannot be denied. In this life the sooner you begin to come to terms with the hard truths that we all face the sooner you can live the life you’re meant to live. By refusing to accept these things we keep ourselves trapped in more ways than most people stop to consider. Below I am going to go over some of these things and break them down as best I can. Of course, it takes time to really let these things sink in but putting them in your mind and allowing your thoughts to grow from there can be a big part of moving forward in some of the best possible ways. Just because you don’t want to think about something does not change the fact that it is part of this reality we’re living in. 22 Things You Have To Come To Terms With If You Want To Live Your Best Life:
1. Life is not and will never be fair.
Nothing in this world is fair. You will see bad people with wonderful things and good people with nothing. Life doesn’t just hit those who are deserving with the things they need or want. It just doesn’t work that way as sad as it sounds.
2. We all have our own problems.
No one on this world is free from problems. While your problems and my problems are different, we are all experiencing our own things. You cannot say you are struggling more if you cannot see my struggle.
3. You cannot change the past, sorry.
You are unable to change the past so you should not be allowing it power over you. Never dwell on things you cannot change. Life is constantly moving forth and you will get lost if you allow your present moment to waste away.
4. Time is something we will never have enough of.
We are all running out of time. Life is short and time is something we can never get back. Each moment as it ticks away is another moment lost. Make the most of the time you have here on this planet.
5. Some battles are not meant to be fought.
Sometimes walking away is the best option. You don’t always have to engage with others. If things are going south consider whether or not the fight you’re facing is worth it or not.
6. Complaining is a waste of your time.
The more you complain the more time you waste. Just get things done and work through the problems before you. Once you accomplish that you can spend all the time you want enjoying things.
7. You cannot please everyone.
There are people in this world who will never be happy. You cannot please everyone and coming to terms with that will be one of the best things you ever do. Life is too short to spend time trying to do things for people who don’t appreciate your efforts to begin with.
8. You don’t owe anyone anything and no one owes you anything, point blank.
You do not owe anyone anything and no one owes you anything either. You do what you want and live the life you see fit. Don’t go through each day letting other people make your decisions for you.
9. We are extremely fragile beings.
We might think we are at the top of the food chain and completely invincible but the truth is we as human beings are very fragile. We become broken very easily and need to handle ourselves with care. Stop letting other people walk all over you.
10. Relationships take effort from both parts, not just one.
If you’re the only one putting forth effort in your relationship things will never work. You both need to be doing all you can for one another to really keep things going. This kind of connection is not easy to nurture and if you’re the only one nurturing it, it was doomed from the start.
11. Most people you meet don’t actually care about you at all.
Most of the people you meet in this world do not care about you even if they say they do. We as human beings love to use one another. This place is full of people who will only hurt you if you let them too close. Choose the people in your life wisely.
12. Your appearance is not everything.
Looks do not matter. What truly matters is who you are on the inside. You could be beautiful but have a bad personality and guess what? No one would want to be near you.
13. Actions do speak louder than words.
When someone says they will do something, make sure they follow through. Look at their actions. Don’t get too close to those who refuse to do the things they agree to. We all need those in our lives that we can rely on.
14. Sometimes you have to fail so you can succeed later on.
In this world we have to fail sometimes to get where we need to be so that we can succeed. Failure is all a part of success in the end and you need to know that. Just because you aren’t where you want to be right now does not mean you should give up.
15. Love is not an excuse to stay in a toxic situation/relationship.
Just because you love someone does not mean you should put up with them abusing you or being overly toxic as a whole. You deserve someone in your life who puts the efforts into things that you do. Someone who will be there for you in all the best ways instead of just beating you down on the inside.
16. Just because you want something doesn’t mean you can have it or should have it.
Sure, there are tons of things we all want in this life but that doesn’t mean we can have those things. We all have to come to terms with the fact that sometimes things are a little more impossible than we think. While there is nothing wrong with having dreams, be realistic.
17. No one lives forever.
Everyone dies at some point. The people you care about will not be with you forever. You eventually will pass away and no longer be of this world.
18. People will judge you, that’s just a part of life.
No matter how hard you try to impress others there will always be people who judge you. People love to judge one another and it is a habit we cannot break everyone of. Being judged does not define you and the thoughts these people place in your mind are not true unless you allow them to be.
19. Not everyone you get close to is going to stick around.
Sometimes we get attached to people who were not meant to be in our lives permanently. This world is full of temporary people. A lot of the people in your life right now will not be by your side five years from now.
20. Your pride isn’t actually worth anything, let go of it.
Sure, you might be a bit prideful overall but it’s not worth anything and is something you should let go of. Pride holds us back in more ways than you could ever imagine. If you hold onto your pride you will never be able to grow properly.
21. Mistakes are meant to be made so that we can learn from them.
Each mistake we make holds a lesson. Learning from those lessons is very important. If you’re not willing to learn, you will never be able to come to terms with the things you’ve done in your past.
22. True happiness comes from within.
Being in a relationship will not make you happy and having nice things will not make you happy. Happiness in its truest form comes from within. You have to find it inside of yourself if you truly want it.
Sources:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/relationship-troubles-actions-speak-louder-than-words/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/you-cant-please-everyone/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201809/you-cant-change-the-past-you-can-rewrite-your-history
This is all so true! I love this! A great read.